How are you adapting to being a family of four?
N: When we took our first pictures and I saw all four of us together, that was the first time I was like, “Wow, it’s the four of us.” It’s fun. If Harlow is with me, I’ll say, “Let’s put Sparrow to bed,” and she’ll come play while I do that.
J: Because he’s with Nicole most of the time, I’m spending so much time with Harlow. I’ll say, “Tomorrow Daddy and Harlow are going to go on a date; what do you want to do?” Sometimes it’s go to the zoo, or go see ponies. Sometimes she wants to go sit in her own chair at Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf. We’ll just sit there and talk.
N: She’s said, “Go to a birthday party,” which can be difficult.
J: I’m like, “I’ll try to figure that one out!” Nicole had her birthday right after she had Sparrow, and Harlow and I threw her a birthday party — she was so excited.
N: So she got an Elmo cake. It had nothing to do with me!
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How is having a baby boy different?
N: I have to give Joel credit — he’s doing most of the diaper changing. Changing a boy is different.
J: He can spray you!
N: Also Harlow was never cuddly as a baby. But Sparrow is very physically attached to me. Sometimes all he wants is for me to hold him.
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What is Harlow’s personality like?
N: Harlow will come out of nowhere, hug me and say, “I love you Mommy.” It just melts me.
J: I’ll take her out to eat and say, “Have whatever you want!” She’ll say, “Carrots!”
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What do you admire about each other as parents?
J: Mothering comes naturally to Nicole. She loves it. The kids always come first — and she makes it all look easy. As a dad, there’s no better feeling. While I’m working, it all piles on her. She is taking care of the kids, and it never gets to her. She doesn’t feel like she’s giving anything up — she is wholeheartedly their mom.
N: Joel’s the best dad. He’s so delicate with Harlow — it brings tears to my eyes.
J: Harlow’s very easy — she has me wrapped around her finger.
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Has your social life changed as your family grows?
J: You don’t lose old friends, but the time you can spend with them is limited. Our interactions revolve around getting together with people who have kids.
What’s your secret to losing your baby weight so quickly?
J: She doesn’t work out, she doesn’t diet. It’s so easy for her.
N: Thank you, honey — if only the whole world saw me through Joel’s eyes! I’m breastfeeding, so that sucks the life out of you.
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What lies ahead for your family?
N: I’m dedicating this time to bonding with the kids and putting all of my energy towards my family. Harlow is on her way to potty training. It’s happening naturally — I include her in whatever I’m doing, and she wants to do it.
J: You pee in front of her?
N: Yes, do you?
J: No!
Any talk of tying the knot?
N: One day I would love to get married. It’s not something we’re talking about now. If my kids ask me to get married, I’d get married.
J: Nothing needs to change — it’s a great feeling.
N: The only thing you want is for your kids to be healthy and happy, and they are. I couldn’t be happier.






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